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		<title>Deacon (1993-2011)</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sandra and I didn&#8217;t expect to end up with a new dog of our own when we took her sister Betty Jo to look at MinPin puppies in December 1994. The owner of the puppies, John Batchie, was a house painter in Escondido who lived in the upstairs portion of a converted barn on his [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110623_deacon_03_2011.jpg"></a><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110623_deacon_03_2011.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-4557" title="Good dog." src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110623_deacon_03_2011.jpg" alt="" width="601" height="399" /></a></p>
<p>Sandra and I didn&#8217;t expect to end up with a new dog of our own when we took her sister Betty Jo to look at MinPin puppies in December 1994. The owner of the puppies, John Batchie, was a house painter in Escondido who lived in the upstairs portion of a converted barn on his property. We walked in, sat down &#8212; and suddenly this one-year-old MinPin, the father of the litter in question as it turned out, dashed across the room, jumped into Sandra&#8217;s lap, buried his head between her arm and her side, and didn&#8217;t move for the rest of our stay there.</p>
<p>That was our introduction to Deacon, sixteen-and-a-half years ago.</p>
<p>John was not very attached to Deacon and said that both Mary (the mother of the litter) and John&#8217;s cat picked on him a lot. So John offered him to us on the condition that we make him available from time to time for stud duties, which we did until we left San Diego a year and half later. We took him with us to Virginia, to Maryland, to Texas, back to Washington DC, and finally to Colorado.</p>
<p>Deacon was always Sandra&#8217;s dog. Our own kids loved him, and he would  snuggle with just about anyone, particularly as he got older, but he  loved Sandra, and she loved him. He loved nothing more than to be curled  up with her: on a couch, on the bed, wherever.</p>
<p><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_deacon_2001.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-4559" title="Hanging at the beach house." src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_deacon_2001.jpg" alt="" width="600" height="450" /></a></p>
<p>In every single house that we&#8217;ve lived in since we got him, he&#8217;s escaped at some point (usually multiple times) and gone wandering through the neighborhood; in some of our neighborhoods, the local kids got to know him and would take him home to play with before bringing him back to our house.</p>
<p><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_deacon_huntington.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-4564" title="Protecting the house from squirrels. " src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_deacon_huntington.jpg" alt="" width="599" height="391" /></a></p>
<p>When we ended up with Deacon in 1994, we already had another dog, Belle, a Yorkshire Terrier/Chihuahua mix. Deacon was rather intimidated by Belle; when we put her to sleep about 3 years later due to cancer, he seemed to relish being the only dog. He tolerated, but was never playful with, the subsequent MinPins in our home: first Laverne and Shirley, whom we got nine years ago because I was concerned about Deacon&#8217;s age(!); then Winni and Marti, whom we got five years ago, several months after Shirley was killed by a coyote.</p>
<p><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_deacon_dc.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-4561" title="Looking to go wandering." src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_deacon_dc.jpg" alt="" width="602" height="400" /></a></p>
<p>Deacon was still doing his &#8216;walkabouts&#8217; after we moved here to Colorado six years ago, and he would sit or lie out on our deck and bark at all the other dogs in the area. But a few years ago, both his eyesight and his hearing began to fail, and he lost the confidence (and, as time went on, the strength) to climb stairs or jump up on the furniture. But he still had a great appetite, he loved to snuggle with us, and his sense of smell got, if anything, keener &#8212; he&#8217;d be asleep in on our bed, I&#8217;d open the fridge door and take out food, and Deacon would wake up and start barking.</p>
<p><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_allthedogs.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-4581" title="Deacon, sharing the bed with Marti and Laverne; Winni in front." src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_allthedogs.jpg" alt="" width="400" height="602" /></a></p>
<p>Deacon had a good, full life, extending long past the usual canine lifespan. He was always a favorite at our large BBQs because he would let all the kids hold and pet him to their hearts&#8217; content. During the last year or two of his life, he was prone in the late afternoon to get cranky and bark until Sandra or I picked him up to hold him or let him curl up with us on the couch or the bed. And for the last several months, he would often wake up in the middle of the night &#8212; he slept on the cushioned cedar chest at the foot of our bed &#8212; and bark until one of us got up and brought him to bed with us, where he&#8217;d fuss around between us until he found the exact right spot, collapse down, and sleep contentedly until morning. (Sometimes, we&#8217;d try to put him back down on the cedar chest after he&#8217;d gone to sleep &#8212; he&#8217;d usually wake back up and bark until we brought him back to bed.)</p>
<p><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_deaconasleep.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-4575" title="Deacon, asleep, curled up around Sandra's hand." src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/20110624_deaconasleep.jpg" alt="" width="604" height="451" /></a></p>
<p>We frankly were surprised he lasted this long &#8212; he would have been  18 this coming December. Three months back, he vomited up a half cup of  fresh blood late one afternoon; we were sure he was dying, cleaned him  up, made him comfortable, and waited. He recovered fully; we still don&#8217;t  know what the problem was.</p>
<p>Then six weeks ago, in the middle of the night, he had a major  seizure that lasted for a good minute or so. Again, we were sure he was  going to die; again, he didn&#8217;t, and he mostly recovered, though he was  more frail and weak afterward.</p>
<p>Ten days ago, however, he had a second seizure, and he never fully  recovered from this one. For several days, he seemed profoundly  confused; it was clear that this attack had affected his mind. He  recovered a bit, but still was going through bouts where he just  seemed&#8230;lost, as if he didn&#8217;t know where he was or why he was there. He  would just stand in one place, with his head going steadily back and  forth, until Sandra or I went and picked him up. That, on top of his  blindness and partial deafness, not to mention his general physical  weakness, seemed to rob him of what quality of life he had left.</p>
<p>So this morning, I made that oh-so-hard call to Dr. Jones, our  wonderful vet who has been treating Deacon and our other dogs for the  last six years. He scheduled us for the last appointment of the day; he  was quick and humane, and we took Deacon home, wrapped in his blue dog  blanket, and buried him on a ridge on our property just a few feet from  where I buried Shirley five-and-a-half years ago.</p>
<p>I have pondered for years the bonds between humans and dogs; they seem  different than those we have with any other animal. I can&#8217;t think of  another species of animal that has on so many occasions put itself into  harm&#8217;s way or even given its life to protect a human &#8212; not because it  was trained to do so, but out of love and instinct. Likewise, I have a  hard time naming another species that gives its human owners such  unconditional love. We laugh at the cliche, &#8220;Help me to be the person my  dog thinks I am,&#8221; but we wince a bit as well &#8212; those of us who have or  have had dogs know just how true it is.</p>
<p>There is also a sentimental cliche that heaven is the place where, when you arrive, all the dogs who have ever loved you come running to meet you.</p>
<p><em>Let&#8217;s see: Tubby. Max. Yo-Yo. Howl. Belle. Princess Jamaica. Shirley. Deacon. And, provided I outlive them, Laverne, Winni and Marti.</em></p>
<p>You know what? That works for me. That works for me just fine.  ..bruce w..</p>
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		<title>On Memorial Day &#8212; here&#8217;s to my dad</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I know I haven&#8217;t been posting much lately &#8212; I haven&#8217;t had a lot to say. But today, on Memorial Day, I want to repost the eulogy I gave for my father when we scattered his ashes out at sea in June 1997. My father’s life spanned three-fourths of this [the 20th] century and was, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>I know I haven&#8217;t been posting much lately &#8212; I haven&#8217;t had a lot to say. But today, on Memorial Day, I want to repost the eulogy I gave for my father when we scattered his ashes out at sea in June 1997.</em></p>
<p>My father’s life spanned three-fourths of this [the 20th] century and  was, perhaps, as pure an example of American life and the American  dream as can be found. His life was shaped by three major forces —  history, the sea, and my mother — though I leave it to others to decide  which has been more powerful. (Being my mother’s son, I know where I’d  place my bets.) And through his life, he set an example for all of us  here.</p>
<p>John Arthur Webster was born in Rapid City, South Dakota, a town that  in 1924 was barely removed from the Old West we see in movies. His  grandfather, George Cosgrove, was an immigrant from Canada who had  served as a Deputy US Marshal in the Dakota Territories in and around  Deadwood and who knew Wild Bill Hickok and Calamity Jane well — in the  latter case, perhaps a bit too well. When Dad was just five years old,  the stock market crashed, and America began its long slide into the  Great Depression. It is perhaps impossible for use of a later generation  to comprehend the shortages, difficulties, and despair of that time. It  marked Dad for life, and he referred to it often as we grew up, stating  frequently that he never wanted us to go without as he and so many of  those around him had.</p>
<p>While still young, Dad and his family moved to Nebraska, then down to  Panama — his dad, James Webster, was in the Navy — and then to San  Diego. California, a frontier of a different kind, was something quite  different in the 1930s from the sprawling mass we see today; it was,  indeed, a golden country, full of promise and opportunity despite the  persistent weight of the Depression. San Diego itself would become home  to the Webster clan, the place where we all return to again and again,  producing third- and even fourth-generation Californians.</p>
<p>But that would come later. For now, Dad’s concerns were mostly  school, girls, and work, not necessarily in that order. After less than a  year in San Diego, Dad’s family moved to San Pedro, up near Los  Angeles. As a young man, Dad used to go out to the harbor breakwaters  and harvest the abalone that covered the rocks. Using a sharp knife, he  would cut the abalone meat very carefully away from the shell — then  throw the meat into the harbor, while stacking the shells to one side to  be sold as souvenirs to tourists. Decades later, he would wince and  shake his head as he recalled this. He also worked delivering newspapers  to help pay for his clothing and other necessities, first on his own,  and then with his lifelong friend, Jerry Gannon.</p>
<p>Here he also met Jackie Fickes, the daughter of an LA County law  enforcement officer. This could have been a Romeo-and-Juliet situation —  Dad’s own father was now working as a longshoreman, and there was  little love lost between those two groups back then. The only problem  was that Mom and Dad never dated in high school. Dad claimed that he had  his eye — and his heart — set on Mom even back then, though Mom tends  to be skeptical. But subsequent events may support Dad’s point of view.</p>
<p>First, though, history and the sea intervened again with war breaking  out on the far side of both oceans. In 1939, Dad’s own father was  called back to active duty in the Navy — and Dad would not see him again  for seven years, a separation that we would find hard to imagine today.  Two years later, upon turning 17, Dad followed his father’s footsteps,  wanting to see the world, He enlisted in the US Navy, made it through  boot camp, and went out to sea on board <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/USS_San_Francisco_%28CA-38%29">the USS San Francisco (CA-38)</a>, a heavy cruiser.</p>
<p>He got more than even he bargained for. On the way out of port, they  were diverted down to the waters off Mexico to rescue a Naval barge  caught in a hurricane. To get there, they had to sail straight through  the hurricane. The barge turned out to be fine, but the San Francisco  suffered damages and even lost a man overboard.</p>
<p>The San Francisco then made its way to the Naval shipyards in Pearl  Harbor to undergo repairs. It was still in that condition — with the  ship’s guns dismantled and ammunition offloaded — <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attack_on_Pearl_Harbor">when the Japanese attacked on December 7<sup>th</sup></a>.  Dad and his crew members were issued rifles with which to fire at the  Japanese planes that were wreaking havoc on the US Pacific fleet. At  this point, Dad said he began to have second thoughts about having  joined the Navy, but by then it was too late.</p>
<p>Dad spent most of the war in the Pacific. His ship, the San Francisco, came out of the Pearl Harbor attack unscathed. However, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/USS_San_Francisco_%28CA-38%29#Naval_Battle_of_Guadalcanal">it was badly damaged and took heavy losses</a> after engaging several Japanese warships at close range during <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naval_Battle_of_Guadalcanal">the Naval Battle of Guadalcanal</a> (November 1942). The San Francisco made it back to port for repairs,  and Dad was sent back to the States for Officer Candidate’s School. Dad  got kicked out of OCS for slugging an instructor and instead was given  training in radio communications, becoming a very skilled radio key  operator. He then was sent to the recently-established Camp Pendleton to  train with the US Marine Corps and was in the third wave of the USMC <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Guam_%281944%29">invasion of Guam</a> (August 1944), part of a team with the responsibility to set up Radio  Guam, the US armed forces communications center for the South Pacific.  He spent the rest of the war there and helped to relay the news of the  unconditional surrender of Japan.</p>
<p>In 1943, while back in the States, Dad had secured a brief leave home  and used it to track down and renew contact with Jackie Fickes; if his  heart hadn’t been set on her in high school, it certainly appeared to be  so now. In December of 1945, a few months after the war ended, Dad was  back in San Pedro on leave. Once again, he tracked down Jackie Fickes.  Mom at that time was in nursing school and engaged to be married — to  someone else — on December 30<sup>th</sup>. However, she apparently had  some interest in Dad, because she not only agreed to go out with him,  but after one date she broke off her engagement with the other guy. A  few weeks later, Jackie and John were having dinner with Jerry and  Claudine Gannon, high school friends of theirs who had married each  other a year earlier. One discussion led to another, Dad suggested that  he and Mom elope, and the four of them headed to Las   Vegas with Jerry  driving his uncle’s car (unbeknownst to his uncle). Various car  problems, wedding logistics, and the Clark County clerk’s refusal to  believe that Dad was 21 delayed the actual ceremony until about 4 pm the  following afternoon, but they were finally married — on December 30<sup>th</sup>, Mom’s original wedding date.</p>
<p>Of course, they had to go back and face Jackie’s dad, John (“Jack”)  Fickes, who had contacted the LAPD and put out an all-points bulletin  when his daughter had failed to come home a few nights before. When they  pulled up in from of Mom’s house, Jerry said he’d wait in the car,  thank you. Dad often said that the hardest thing he ever had to do in  his life was to walk with Mom back into her parents’ house and explain  to her father what they had done. He sat down, set his sailor’s cap on  the table, lit a cigarette, and tossed his lighter into his cap while he  started to talk. Jack Fickes finally had to interrupt him to point out  that the lighter hadn’t closed or gone out and that Dad had set his cap  on fire.</p>
<p>Mom got pregnant right away, a fact that soon came to the attention  of the nursing school director. Since the nursing students were not  allowed to be married, much less pregnant, the director called Mom in  and asked her to explain her obvious condition. Mom looked the director  straight in the eye and said, “Don’t you remember I asked you for  permission to get married?” They both knew full well that Mom hadn’t,  but the director, choosing the best of some difficult choices, accepted  Mom’s statement and allowed her to stay.</p>
<p>While Mom was dealing with nursing school and pregnancy, Dad was back  out on the ocean and touching history again. The U.S. in 1946 was  conducting <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Crossroads">open-air nuclear tests</a> in the South Pacific. Dad was part of a team assigned to go aboard and  inspect unoccupied target ships that would be anchored various distances  from the blasts; the team would then attempt various decontamination  procedures. He spoke in later years of how they would drop pieces of  metal and equipment overboard and watch them glow as they sank in the  clear ocean water. At the conclusion of these tests, Dad and the rest of  the team were informed of the possible effects of radiation upon them.  This may explain much about the Webster household, especially the  offspring, except for Deirdre Ann, who had already been conceived. We  don’t have an explanation for her.</p>
<p>The next fifteen years were an intense period of separation,  childbearing, and travel. Susanne Evelyn, John Alfred (whom none of us  will ever call anything but “Chip”), and Lorraine Imogene came in  successive years –1947, 1948, and 1949 — but Suzanne and Lorraine were  born on the West Coast while Chip was born back in Washington D.C. While  in D.C., Dad — then a Radioman First Class — took the Navy-wide  competitive exam for promotion to Chief Petty Officer and placed 6<sup>th</sup> out of over 2000 candidates. Needless to say, he got the promotion.</p>
<p>Then, shortly after Lorraine’s birth, Dad called up Mom and asked her  how she’d like to come to French Morocco. Mom, with four kids under the  age of four, had to work to earn the money for their plane tickets to  Washington  D.C.; the Navy would then transport all of them from there.  She did so, and soon the entire Webster family was in <a href="http://www.portlyautey.com/Port%20Lyautey%20History.htm">Port Lyautey</a> in northwest Africa. It is small wonder that Dad loved and adored Mom  so much, was so grateful to her, and was so devoted to her well-being.</p>
<p>After two years in Africa, Mom and the four kids returned to the  States, but a fifth — myself, Bruce Francis — was already in the oven,  so to speak. Dad continued on cruise in the Mediterranean. As the time  for my delivery came near, Mom asked the local Red Cross to certify her  pregnancy so that she could request Dad to come home on leave to help  out with the children and the birth. Appallingly, the Red Cross refused  to comply, stating that there were plenty of qualified foster families  in the area that could take the older kids, so that there was no need  for Dad to come home. Dad, when he found out, went to his fleet  commander, who was likewise appalled and not a little irritated that the  Red Cross should presume to decide whether Dad could come home. He not  only sent Dad home on leave, but told him that he could remain there in  Rhode Island until his ship got back to the States.</p>
<p>After Rhode Island came a stay in San Diego — the first for our  family — then a stay in north Chicago, at the Great Lakes Naval Training  Center, then back to San Diego, where Jacqueline Diane, the last of the  Webster kids, was born while Dad was out to sea on the aircraft carrier  USS Hancock (CV-19). Then late in 1958, the whole family packed up and  moved to Subic Bay in the Philippines for two years, meaning that in six  years the Websters had gone 2/3rds of the way around the earth. Mom’s  dad, Jack Fickes, by then a widower, came to live with us out there and  would live with us for the rest of his life (another 13 years).</p>
<p>n December of 1960, we returned to the States, moving to Astoria,  Oregon, a place most noted in family annals for the snakes I captured  and let loose, often in the Naval housing duplex in which we lived. But  Dad and Mom decided it was time to settle down. So Mom, in an act of  remarkable faith and confidence, sent Dad and Grandpa Jack down to San    Diego to find and buy a house for all of us to live in. They did so,  and we all moved down to La Mesa (in east San Diego  County) — the rest  of us, Mom included, still not having seen the house — in August, 1961.</p>
<p>It was an inspired choice and — besides marrying Mom — one of the  best choices Dad ever made, though he would often grumble in later years  about the yardwork and maintenance required, threatening to sell the  whole place and move into a condo. Still, after fifteen years of  traveling from one side of the world to the other, it gave us a sense of  permanence, a place to plant our feet and our hearts. It was just in  time, too. Over the next ten years, the five oldest children left home  for college and marriages, but we now had a place to come back to, and  we did so — Christmas, Easter, Fourth of July, and Thanksgiving — year  after year.</p>
<p>During those ten years, Dad — when he wasn’t on cruise — got to deal  with a bunch of bright and independent teenagers during the turbulent  60s. We had sit-down dinners most evenings, and the conversations were  anything but dull — not just because of the topical issues, but because  of the Webster family propensity to zing one another and anything (or  anyone) else that got in the way. Those of you who have attended Webster  family gatherings know what I’m talking about. Indeed, the combination  of Dad’s and Mom’s personalities, beliefs and genes seem to have created  a very distinct Webster clan: irreverent, determined, with a skewed  sense of humor, freely razzing one another, yet fiercely loyal,  confident in their ability to achieve what they want to, yet willing to  endure what sacrifices they need to. Indeed, if there is a Webster  family motto, it is my mother’s simple reply when I have asked her how  she managed to endure all she went through during the early years of her  marriage to Dad: “You just do what you have to do.”</p>
<p>History, in the form of Vietnam, intervened again a few years after  moving to San Diego. Dad did two tours of duty, each lasting roughly a  year, in Vietnam. The first was aboard the USS Piedmont (AD-17), a  destroyer tender that would carry out repairs and maintenance for  destroyers off the coast of Vietnam. The Piedmont’s motto was “Non bonum  sed perfectum” — not good, but perfect — which could have also been  Dad’s professional motto. While most of Dad’s work was done at a safe  distance offshore, he and a colleague did draw a hazardous mission in  country. It seems that a freighter had been abandoned in the channel  leading from the ocean up to Saigon. Their mission was to get the ship  operating, underway, and out of the channel before the Viet Cong sank it  to create a hazard for other ships. They did so, but not without  several nerve-wracking experiences along the way.</p>
<p>Dad’s skill and competence were recognized when he was hand-picked by  the Western Pacific Fleet Commander to head up the electronics division  aboard the USS Providence (CLG-6), a guided missile cruiser that was  the flagship for the entire US fleet in Vietnam. This would be Dad’s  final assignment; when the Providence finished its Vietnam tour and was  reassigned to San Diego, Dad came home for good, finishing out his Navy  career in port.</p>
<p>But Dad retired in 1970 after 29 years, not in 1971 after 30 years,  as would normally be the case — and therein lies a tale worth telling.  As Deirdre has explained it to me, it seems that a high-ranking admiral  back in the Pentagon had a pet project that was developing advanced  electronic detection/countermeasures technology. Because of Dad’s  experience and reputation, he was chosen to give the system an  independent evaluation. After a series of tests and reviews, Dad said it  was, in effect, worthless. This infuriated the admiral back in the  Pentagon, who demanded a new set of tests. Dad’s own fleet commander,  likewise an admiral, explained to Dad all the issues and potential  repercussions, then asked him to go through the process again, but also  told him that he would back whatever evaluation he made. So Dad did all  the tests and reviews again and came to the same conclusion. His fleet  commander backed the evaluation, and the project was killed — but not  without a cost. Dad, having been kicked out of OCS during World War II,  had slowly worked his way up through the enlisted ranks (Chief Petty  Officer and Chief Warrant Officer) and had finally earned his commission  the hard way, becoming a Lieutenant JG and then a full Lieutenant. With  only a year or so to go before retirement, he was up for promotion to  Lt. Commander. That promotion was now denied, almost certainly torpedoed  by a certain vindictive admiral back in the Pentagon. Furious at such  shabby and petty treatment in consequence to an honest evaluation,  especially after 29 years of hard work and sacrifice on the part of him  and Mom, Dad immediately resigned, refusing to spend even just one more  year in the service that had occupied his entire adult life. So in  February of 1970, just shy of his 46<sup>th</sup> birthday, Dad was a civilian for the first time since high school.</p>
<p>After this time, history pretty much left Dad alone. He worked a  series of jobs — delivery of pet food supplies to retail stores, selling  real estate, assisting at a veterinary hospital — before finally  retiring for good. The sea was still his (second) love, though, and he  often went out deep sea fishing, keeping us stocked in albacore and  yellow fin tuna. He took over many domestic chores to help support Mom,  who had been working full time (and then some) since shortly after  moving back to San Diego. Dad’s support, not to mention the departure of  most of us kids, allowed Mom to go back to school and get her Bachelors  degree in Nursing — all while continuing to work as head nurse of a  rest home. (Did I mention “overachievers” in the list of Webster clan  traits?) The two of them also established a tradition of taking trips  each year, having bought into a timeshare company. They were usually  accompanied by their close neighbors and dear friends, Nancy and Carroll  Reed. Dad and Carroll –an art professor who had served in the Army in  World War II and who had gone ashore in the Normandy Invasion on D-Day —  would sit, talk, read and fish, while Mom and Nancy would go off  hiking, exploring, seeking adventures, and generally causing Dad and  Carroll to shake their heads.</p>
<p>When Mom retired as well in 1989, she and Dad bought an RV and began  several years of extensive travel, sometimes being on the road for  months at a time. Their longest trip took them up the West Coast, across  the length of Canada, down the East Coast, and back across the South  and Southwest. After so many years of being separated, it was sweet and  true justice that they could have these months and years alone together.  And in the end, both history and the sea faded away, and it was Mom  that occupied the rest of Dad’s life, though he always delighted in  visits by the kids and especially the grandkids, of which they had an  abundance from a variety of sources.</p>
<p>My daughter Jacqui — one of those grandkids — once told me that her  image of Dad will forever be of him sitting at the kitchen table of the  house in La Mesa, in the evening, the lights dim, listening to a Padres  game, occasionally muttering, exclaiming, or even slamming the table  when something bad or good happened. She also said that she was 12 years  old before she realized that Dad really didn’t send vials of his best  gravy to the Smithsonian Institute. And some years ago, when Deirdre and  I shared an office, she found herself chuckling because, she said, my  unconscious mannerisms and expressions were so much like Dad’s. In so  many ways, Dad’s life and habits, not to mention his jokes, will  resonate in our family for generations.</p>
<p>But the greater heritage for all of us was Dad’s dedication to family  and country. He epitomizes something I read years ago, written by <a href="http://adventures-in-mormonism.com/2008/04/14/a-life-that-touched-and-still-touches-mine/">Tom McGetchin</a>,  a planetary scientist who died from cancer as a relatively young age.  McGetchin spent the last months of his life in Hawaii with some friends  and kept a journal during that time. In it, he made the observation that  there were three main tasks we had in this life:</p>
<ul>
<li>Shaping our stone, that is, making our contribution to civilization and humanity;</li>
<li>Loving others;</li>
<li>Taking the next step.</li>
</ul>
<p>Dad did all three and did them well, and he has now taken the  ultimate next step. It is fitting that here at the end, Mom, the sea,  and history — in the form of the representative of the Pearl Harbor  Survivors Association — have come together again, with all of us, to  celebrate his life, mourn his passing, and rededicate ourselves to  living up to the quiet example he set. That is the best legacy, tribute,  and repayment that we could give him for all he has given us. That we  may all do so is my hope and prayer.</p>
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		<title>Pearl Harbor, redux</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Dec 2010 18:23:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I could do without the music and intense narration, but I post this in memory of my late father, John A. Webster, who was there at Pearl Harbor as a 17-year-old seaman first class aboard the USS San Francisco.  If you click through on the video to YouTube, there are additional segments. Hat tip to [...]]]></description>
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<p>I could do without the music and intense narration, but I post this in memory of my late father, <strong><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/2008/06/a-eulogy-for-my-father-republished/">John A. Webster</a></strong>, who was there at Pearl Harbor as a 17-year-old seaman first class aboard <strong><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/2008/12/remembering-pearl-harbor/">the USS San Francisco</a></strong>.  If you click through on the video to YouTube, there are additional segments. Hat tip to <a href="http://spectator.org/blog/2010/12/07/remember-pearl-harbor">Philip Klein at the American Spectator blog</a>.  ..bruce w..</p>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Aug 2010 21:00:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Turkeys and lamb done, carved, and in the oven; all brisket done, ready to be carved; soda needs to go on ice. General craziness time, so I can&#8217;t post  more until it&#8217;s all over. See you then.  ..bruce w..]]></description>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Aug 2010 22:57:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sandra and I are doing one of our semi-annual Very Large Scale Barbecues on Saturday, August 21st. Any regular ASIP reader who is interested in attending, just drop me a line, and I&#8217;ll give you details. ..bruce w..]]></description>
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<p>Sandra and I are doing one of our semi-annual <a href="http://andstillipersist.com/category/bbq/">Very Large Scale Barbecues</a> on Saturday, August 21st. Any regular ASIP reader who is interested in attending, just <a href="mailto:bwebster@bfwa.com">drop me a line</a>, and I&#8217;ll give you details. ..bruce w..</p>
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		<title>For my sweet wife on Valentine&#8217;s Day</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Some 20 years ago, I wrote Sandra a poem on the 2nd anniversary of our temple sealing. It still says everything I feel for and about her, so here it is: Two Years On Two steps towards eternity Widdershins about the sun, A dance of light in time and space That leads beyond. Threads of [...]]]></description>
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<p>Some 20 years ago, I wrote Sandra a poem on the 2nd anniversary of our temple sealing. It still says everything I feel for and about her, so here it is:</p>
<blockquote>
<h3>Two Years On</h3>
<p>Two steps towards eternity<br />
Widdershins about the sun,<br />
A dance of light in time and space<br />
That leads beyond.</p>
<p>Threads of glory wind around<br />
And bind us into unity,<br />
Pulled by love&#8217;s accretion to<br />
celestial singularlity.</p>
<p>Natural as gravity &#8211;<br />
As others note with but a glance &#8211;<br />
Our lives collide and coalesce.<br />
But oh! the fire in the dance!</p></blockquote>
<p>Happy Valentine&#8217;s Day, sweetheart.  ..bruce w..</p>
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		<title>BBQ blogging &#8212; 31 hours to go [updated]</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[As noted below, we&#8217;re having one of our Very Large Scale BBQs tomorrow (Saturday). I got up this morning at 0545 and fired up the smoker. While (as you can see) I use lump charcoal and soaked wood to do the actual smoking, I unapologetically started the fire in the firebox with MatchLight charcoal and [...]]]></description>
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<p><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/2010/01/invitation-to-our-midwinter-bbq/">As noted below</a>, we&#8217;re having one of our Very Large Scale BBQs tomorrow (Saturday). I got up this morning at 0545 and fired up the smoker. While (as you can see) I use lump charcoal and soaked wood to do the actual smoking, I unapologetically started the fire in the firebox with MatchLight charcoal and charcoal lighter fluid &#8212; it&#8217;s not easy starting a fire in the dark at 6200 feet above sea level and 18<strong>° </strong>F.</p>
<p>Here are the 5 briskets (~40 lbs total) that I&#8217;ll smoke today:</p>
<p><a href="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/20100129_bbq_02.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-3969" title="Mmm . . . meat." src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/20100129_bbq_02.jpg" alt="" width="557" height="370" /></a></p>
<p>They&#8217;ve been marinading since Wednesday morning in <a href="http://www.johnhenrysfoodproducts.com/index.html">John Henry&#8217;s</a> Texas brisket marinade (which I usually buy <a href="http://www.johnhenrysfoodproducts.com/newproducts.aspx?cat=Bulk%20Gallons">2 to 3 gallons</a> at a time). I gently blotted them off, then applied (surprise!) John Henry&#8217;s <a href="http://www.johnhenrysfoodproducts.com/newproducts.aspx?cat=Gourmet+Blends">Texas brisket dry rub</a>. Three of the briskets are smoking right now; I&#8217;ll smoke the other two later today. All five will get double-wrapped in heavy foil and stuck in the oven at 180<strong>°</strong> until they&#8217;re served tomorrow afternoon.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m also smoking some elk steaks (marinading in a mix of brisket marinade and red wine), three bone-in turkey breasts (white wine, fresh basil, various herbs, and a cinnamon stick), and a leg of lamb (red wine, onion, garlic, basil, olive oil, salt, pepper).  Grilling will include chicken (boneless breasts, cut lengthwise, marinated in chipotle Tabasco sauce), hamburgers, hot dogs (as always, Hebrew National), and some veggies (asparagus, small sweet peppers, a few portabello mushrooms).</p>
<p>I had planned to smoke the elk steaks this afternoon with the remaining two briskets, but when I took them out of the marinade this morning, they turned out to be smaller than I expected (they were frozen together when I started marinading them two days ago). I don&#8217;t want to dry them out &#8212; particularly since they&#8217;re pretty lean to begin with &#8212; so I may smoke them for a little while just before the BBQ tomorrow and then finish them off on the grill. Right now, they&#8217;re back in their marinade.</p>
<p>More later.  ..bruce w..</p>
<h3>UPDATED 02/02/2010</h3>
<p>OK, things got a bit too hectic to ever really update things. The BBQ was a success &#8212; we had probably 120+ people attend, and almost all of the food was eaten (we were left with maybe 5 lbs of cooked hamburgers and some unopened packs of hot dogs). The elk steaks and the tabasco chicken vanished very quickly, but even I was surprised when I carved up the last of the five briskets as things were winding down a bit, put it out on the serving table &#8212; and then saw that it was completely gone about a half hour later. Great fun, though Sandra and I were pretty exhausted the next day.  ..bfw..</p>
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		<title>Merry Christmas to all!</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[From our home to yours &#8212; God bless us every one!  ..bruce w..]]></description>
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<p>From our home to yours &#8212; God bless us every one!  ..bruce w..</p>
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		<title>Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I am grateful for more than I can express: family, faith, friends, country, health, the opportunities of life, and above all my sweetheart, Sandra. God bless us, everyone.  ..bruce w..]]></description>
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<p>I am grateful for more than I can express: family, faith, friends, country, health, the opportunities of life, and above all my sweetheart, Sandra. God bless us, everyone.  ..bruce w..</p>
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		<title>I&#8217;m dreaming of a white . . . Halloween?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[It started snowing here about 9 pm on Tuesday evening and hasn&#8217;t stopped since. The wind has been blowing constantly, pretty much between 10 and 20 mph (I can&#8217;t tell for sure &#8212; my outside anemometer appears to have frozen up). The local news station is reporting 14&#8243; of snow so far here in Parker [...]]]></description>
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<p>It started snowing here about 9 pm on Tuesday evening and hasn&#8217;t stopped since. The wind has been blowing constantly, pretty much between 10 and 20 mph (I can&#8217;t tell for sure &#8212; my outside anemometer appears to have frozen up). The local news station is reporting 14&#8243; of snow so far here in Parker as of about 8 am this morning, with another 4&#8243;-8&#8243; due to fall today before this storm finally moves out.  The constant wind from the north, combined with the position of our house on a slight rise, makes for some interesting snow deposits. At the side of the house, there are patches where the lawn still shows through &#8212; and a dozen feet away are some drifts that I suspect are 3&#8242; to 4&#8242; deep.</p>
<p>As noted, the snow is supposed to stop late this afternoon, and it&#8217;s supposed to be sunny and in the 40s tomorrow (and in the 60s by Monday). But our grandkids coming out for a visit are more likely to be sledding for Halloween rather than trick-or-treating.</p>
<p>More photos:</p>
<div id="attachment_3694" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 580px"><img class="size-full wp-image-3694" src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/20091029_octsnow02.jpg" alt="Just a mild fall storm" width="570" height="858" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Here&#39;s the deck from the other end.</p></div>
<div id="attachment_3695" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 580px"><img class="size-full wp-image-3695" src="http://andstillipersist.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/20091029_octsnow03.jpg" alt="It's hard to tell, but the lawn is sloping away -- those drifts are at least 3' deep." width="570" height="858" /><p class="wp-caption-text">It&#39;s hard to tell, but the lawn is sloping away -- those drifts are at least 3&#39; deep.</p></div>
<p>I&#8217;ve got to clear the driveway this afternoon so that Salem (our daughter) can get to work. Even with a motorized snow-blower, I&#8217;m not looking forward to it.  ..bruce w..</p>
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